How to DIY your Wedding with Butterbee Flowers


Step 1: Decide if DIY is right for you.

Are you one of the following:

  • Crafty, or close to someone who is
  • Excited to give your wedding personal touches
  • Flexible about which flowers you’ll have
  • Someone who enjoys planning and organizing
  • On a tight budget
  • If so, then DIY is right for you!

Step 2: Evaluate your wedding flower dreams.

Ask yourself these questions, and write the answers down:

  • What are some adjectives that describe how we envision our wedding flowers? (For example, wild, rustic, colorful, muted, delicate, abundant, quirky, bright)
  • What’s our total budget for flowers? (This should include flowers, materials such as ribbon and vases, delivery fees)
  • What pieces will we need? (Bridal bouquet, Groom boutonniere, Mother of the Bride corsage, flower girl head crown, reception centerpieces, arrangement for the bar, etc.)
  • Who will be the flower design team? (Choose 5-10 people who will help make the arrangements)
  • Where and when will the design take place? (Ideally, at the venue the day before or morning of so that you don’t have to transport the arrangements once they’re made)

Step 3: Decide on Queen Bee or Butterbee flowers.

If you choose Queen Bee flowers, you'll choose your blooms from our weekly availability list, just like our florists do. Butterbee flowers are farmer's choice, which means we'll give you a colorful mix of flowers and foliage. Contact Laura Beth at with questions as to which is right for you.

Step 4: Decide how many stems you’ll need.

Know how many stems you’re putting in each bouquet or vase ahead of time. See our FAQ below to calculate the amount of stems you’ll need. It’s important to know this so that you order the right amount of flowers. Don’t worry about exactly what flowers will go in which bouquet, but do have a sense of the amount of stems that will go in each bouquet. Even a range (30-50 for example) will do!

Step 5: Gather your supplies.

Here’s what you’ll need:

  • Clean vases or jars for each piece, including the bouquets!
  • Flower clippers
  • Design materials: rubber bands, ribbon, pins, corsage bracelets, wire for headcrowns, glue for boutonnieres
  • Trash cans for clipped off flower debris
  • Your favorite tunes!

Step 6: Enjoy yourself!

Putting your wedding flowers together with family and friends will be something you always remember. Relax and enjoy yourself, the flowers will be beautiful no matter what! They’re flowers!

  • Here are some tips to help make the process smooth:
  • Remember the rule of threes! Three dahlias in a bouquet look better than two
  • Have enough flower clippers to go around
  • Always use clean vases for best vase life
  • Use a rubber band to tie bouquets, and then wrap the ribbon over it
  • Have water handy for vases- put pitchers of water on the design table, or work near a sink




How many stems should I get?

You'll need between 10 and 25 stems for a pint sized mason jar with a narrow mouth, which is 2.5". 10 stems will be a delicate look, 25 will be a full, bountiful look. You can use that metric to help estimate how many stems you'll need for your different vessels. For example, if you're doing a vase with a 5" opening for a centerpiece, you'd need about 30-50 stems.

But what if I want big blooms like sunflowers? Do I need fewer stems per vase?

Yes! Big blooms mean fewer stems per vase, since they take up more space.

How much foliage should I get?

I'd recommend getting 50% flowers and 50% foliage overall.

How many stems for a bridal bouquet?

I'd recommend at least 75 stems for the bridal bouquet. You may not use them all, but you can have your pick of what to use for the most special piece of the day.

What holds up well out of water, in a boutonniere?

Any everlastings- rosemary, eucalyptus, statice, gomphrena, craspedia, etc. all look great in a boutonniere out of water for a day or so. Keep your boutonnieres in the fridge until the moment they get put on for the ceremony or pictures! You’ll only need about 5 stems for the boutonniere.

Will you give me advice on choosing my flowers?

We're happy to help!

For Queen Bee flowers, can I skip the farm tour and just order flowers from the emailed availability list?


How should I keep the flowers before the wedding?

A cool place, inside, and out of sunlight will do! An air conditioned living room, bedroom, etc. are fine.

Do my vases need to be clean?

YES!! You can add a drop of bleach to the water in each vase to kill any bacteria.